Self-Acceptance After Trauma

Self-Acceptance After Trauma


Trauma can be a life-altering experience that leaves deep emotional and psychological scars. The aftermath of trauma can leave individuals feeling lost, overwhelmed, and disconnected from their true selves. However, the journey towards healing and self-acceptance can be a transformative experience that allows individuals to find peace and acceptance within themselves. In this blog post, we’ll discuss three essential steps towards self-acceptance after trauma and the habitual actions and reactions that can possibly alienate us and prevent the cultivation of self-compassion.

Accepting Your Feelings

The first step towards self-acceptance after trauma is acknowledging and accepting your feelings. It’s common for individuals to feel a range of emotions after experiencing trauma, including guilt, shame, anger, and sadness. However, it’s crucial to understand that these emotions are a natural part of the healing process. Rather than trying to suppress or ignore these feelings, it’s essential to acknowledge and accept them. This may involve seeking therapy, journaling, or talking to a trusted friend or family member, using visualised and imaginative experiences that could start to repair the emotional injuries from the specific trauma event(s). 

Practicing Self-Compassion

The second step towards self-acceptance after trauma is practicing self-compassion. Self-compassion involves treating yourself with the same kindness, care, and understanding you would offer to a close friend. This may include being patient with yourself as you navigate the healing process, practicing self-care, and challenging negative self-talk. Self-compassion can be a powerful tool in helping individuals develop a sense of acceptance and love towards themselves. Focusing your mind on the present moment, you can start to unravel the past events and distort how you remember them; this can be done by addressing how you are affected in the present moment. Learning to befriend ourselves and start to get to know who you are, soothing yourself with self-compassion and acceptance of where you are right now. By doing this, you start to simultaneously unravel the years of alienation and reverse the feeling of disconnect and avoidance; you welcome a new outlook into your life by working on integrating your past experiences into your present life through self-acceptance, love and the feeling of wholeness. 

Finding Meaning and Purpose

The final step towards self-acceptance after trauma is finding meaning and purpose. Trauma can leave individuals feeling disconnected from their sense of purpose and meaning, but it’s essential to remember that life still holds significance and value. This may involve finding new hobbies or interests, volunteering, or pursuing a new career path. Individuals can develop a sense of acceptance and fulfilment by finding meaning and purpose.


Self-acceptance after trauma is a journey that can be challenging, but it’s a journey that’s worth taking. By accepting your feelings, practicing self-compassion, and finding meaning and purpose, you can develop a sense of peace and acceptance within yourself. The healing process takes time, and seeking ways to help along the course will be by seeking therapy that responds with warmth, concern and acceptance. This will give you the safety to transition from flight mode into the safe space of a calm and rested state of being.

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Helping you to find your inner sanctuary.


Emma x



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